As I was driving home from work yesterday, my phone beeped. Even though I shouldn’t have, I looked down and saw I had a text message. It was a girlfriend asking if I was doing errands. I replied back that I just finished and was on my way home. When I didn’t hear back, I called her. I came to find out her daughter was out and her husband was at a basketball game. Soon enough, plans for a girls dinner was in the works. After going back and forth with choices via text messages, we decided on Taco Cabana. No fancy restaurant, just a simple Tex-Mex place. And you know what, the food was good and the company was great as always. That’s one of the things I love about this friend. It’s the simple things…I can be me with her. I don’t have to pretend. I used to try hard to keep friendships…no mas. I’m keeping it simple from here out.
My big event was today and I felt all eyes were on me as I was the coordinator of it. As I shared yesterday, I had no idea how it would turn out. It’s now been over for 6 hours and I feel relief. There was no catastrophe. Sure, there were things I could’ve done differently and better. The silver lining, despite those realizations, is the support system I had around me. I had colleagues ask me, “How can I help? What can I do?” They wanted it to go well. They wanted to make sure I knew they were there to help make it a success. I’m lucky that I have them to rely on…today and everyday I go to work. They push me to do better. They remind me that we’re all a team.
One of my favorite quotes that Oprah references from Maya Angelou is this: “When you know better, you do better.” I know what I could’ve done better, and therefore will do better. I can be a perfectionist at times….but wth perfection, you are so worried about getting it right, you miss the opportunity to learn any lesson. You miss the opportunity to improve. So instead of dwelling on what wasn’t done, I’m focusing on what is left that I can do. There’s always a silver lining….
Tomorrow I have a big event at work…an event I’m in charge of coordinating. I spent all day looking at my to-do list, crossing things off, adding things, and crossing things off again. I was determined to take a 2 hour respite from thinking about tomorrow and attend a basketball game. I double-checked some things and then headed to the basketball arena with approximately 15 minutes before tipoff. A few vibrations of my phone reminded me during the game that I couldn’t completely remove myself from work. Thanks to modern technology, I answered a few e-mails while glancing up at the action. I was hoping to end the day on a good, lighthearted note…with a win. Did we want badly enough to put a blemish on the record of a so-far unbeaten team? Apparently not as we simply just didn’t take care of the little things.
After the game, I stopped back at work shortly. While running another errand before heading home, I was flipping stations on the radio trying to slow the wheels down in my head. I paused on a soft rock/pop station just in time to hear the notes of a song that’s become one of my favorites “The Time of My Life” by David Cook. I smiled and turned up the radio and sang along as if I didn’t have a care in the world. I love how music can serve as a nice distratction.
I have no idea how tomorrow will turn out….I’m just going to show up and hope for the best.
This year, Ash Wednesday snuck up on me. It was on my calendar for a while so I’d remember to make mental note to attend service. Nevertheless, Wednesday morning came and went. I put some effort into what I would give up and even got my friends in on the task. We went to lunch that day and even though I half-heartedly picked ‘bread’ as the item I’d give up, I wasn’t convinced. The end of the work day came and it would’ve been easy enough to get comfortable at home. I didn’t though and as soon as I grabbed something to eat, I went off to church. Our priest’s homily hit the nail on the head and it was what I needed to hear. As Catholics and Christians, we can get focused on what we’re going to give up for 40 days. At least, that is the case for me. However, Fr. Boyer discussed Lent in a different way. Instead of giving something up, think of it as ‘taking something on.’ He’s referring to doing something extra. Take on a charity, take on doing something for someone else. Take on something bigger than yourself.
So, that is what I’m choosing to do. Sure, it won’t hurt to appreciate some of my favorite foods. But, I know I will get more out of doing something for someone else.
At approximately 8:00 CST, the OU women’s basketball team will take the floor against the Connecticut Huskies. The Huskies are undefeated. They’re leading their conference. They’ve got a great group of players. Oh, and by the way, they’re the defending national champions. For an avid basketball fan such as myself, I’m looking forward to a great game of basketball. I’m setting expectations low. I know there’s a good chance UCONN will win tonight. I know there’s a good chance our turnover # will be too high for Coach Coale’s liking simply because we’re going to try and keep up with their pace.
Worst case scenario…the Sooners walk away from this with a huge chunk of lessons of what they need to work on and areas to improve. Best case scenario….UCONN walks out of Lloyd Noble hoping to never have to play in here again. It’s a learning opportunity….how could one turn that down?
I’m not going to lie and say that being single and w/o a date on Valentine’s Day doesn’t bother me. I sent a text to my best friend wishing her best wishes for today…she wrote back saying same to me and ‘it’s overrated.’ I kiddingly thought to myself, ‘oh sure, you can say that..’ but I didn’t. Granted, she’s right…I mean, it is overrated and is a holiday for guys to panic, thinking they have to get a card, flowers, candy, etc…and go all out for their ‘significant other.’ When in fact, all we girls want is you to acknowledge us…give us compliments just because…not because it’s a certain day.
As I write this, I am watching one of my favorite movies, The Holiday. I didn’t have some extravagant, overpriced dinner nor did I have to get all dressed up…I had a decent dinner and am in comfy clothes as I have been all day. Tomorrow starts a new week and Valentine’s Day will be in the past. I”m okay with that. Maybe one of these days, I’ll have a ‘Valentine’ of my own. And if not, there’s always movies 😉
I attended a dinner tonight to honor 8 individuals in the Oklahoma City and surrounding area that have made an impact on a local level and even nationally. The areas included were: education, sports, public relations, and communications. Now remember, I’m a Texas girl at heart so I’m still learning about Oklahoma. The friend who invited me saw me looking around the room and said, “Some of the most powerful women in Oklahoma are in this room.” I thought to myself, ‘How cool is that…and how lucky am I to be here.’ There were V.P’s of companies, senior asst. athletic director, marketing and public relations gurus, philanthropists and our own head coach for women’s basketball. You name it, there was probably a woman there who represnted it. As I sat and listened to each honoree, I started wondering what I could do to emulate the actions of these women. They have set the bar high for women in Oklahoma….and because of them, there is a long line of young women who want to try and push the bar even further.
I walked away from tonight’s dinner with a renewed sense of wanting to push myself. I love that I’m not done learning yet. I love that there is so much more I can do. I love that I’m surrounded by people who have set such a great example for me. What an incredible blessing that is for me and all those in attendance. What I know for sure, as Oprah says, is that I have hope in the future. I know that my ‘horizons have been broadened’ and I will find my place, not only in this state, but in life. And that is something to smile about….