Trusting one's honesty
I agree that it depends on who I am asking…if I am sure they will give me an honest answer…not just tell me what they think I want to hear. So, with that said, given a friend I'm confident in….I would ask this: How could I do better? This has been asked to someone when I wanted to know my weaknesses…how I could be better at work or just in general. I have become more enlightened because of my asking that. I'm grateful to my friends for their honesty.
humanity. love. respect.
Be more thoughtful, responsible and independent.
Oh wow….well, in all seriousness, I hope they are saying that I was a person that made a difference…that I was kind, sweet, thoughtful, loved to be sarcastic and make people laugh and that I"ll be missed.
I think it's from Mother Teresa, but I'm not sure. One of my favorite quotes is, "To the world you may be one person, but to one person, you may be the world."
Two pieces come to mind: First, when I was getting frustrated hitting golf balls at the driving range, a man next to me said, "Don't let the game get the best of you." Second, a friend told me "You only live once." I try and remember both of those when I'm getting too frustrated with the little things in the game of life….and when I hesitate on doing something I may not be able to do again.
I would go back to a day in 1994 when I was visiting my cousins in Chicago. I had the chance to say goodbye to my aunt who was dying of cancer. Instead, I let her rest but will regret not going over to see her. The lesson I took away from that is to live each day to the fullest…tell those you love how you're feeling, appreciate the little things…what I know for sure is that her spirit lives on in me. It gives me peace to think about that.
A friend of my Mom’s recently recommended a book to me, Have a Little Faith, by Mitch Albom. He is the same author of Tuesdays with Morrie and The 5 People You Meet in Heaven (among others, I believe). I just finished Have a Little Faith….it only took me a few days and was one of those that I wanted to read slowly enough so as to savor the lessons the stories were meant to teach me. There were many moments I was close to tears. In those moments, I would put the book down and reflect. As I got near the end, I began taking note of some quotes that really stuck out to me. I would like to share them now:
‘Did you ever hear a sermon that felt as if it were being screamed into your ear alone? When that happens, it usually has more to do with you than the preacher.’
‘When you give, you get.’ (this is one I’m sure we’ve seen and heard before, but yet for me…I can never hear it too much).
‘Nothing haunts like the things we don’t say.’ (Oh so fitting….life is too short to not say the things we want to say).
The whole book was great….so thought-provoking. It is a true story and I highly recommend it.